Thursday, 14 May 2015

Hug & Heal : Bacho R Bhachao ( Be safe & Save)

Hug & Heal : Bacho R Bhachao ( Be safe & Save)

Hug & Heal ko sab payee mananiye  sadasye le mero dheroi naman r satkar.  
Hazoor le jo kaam gardecha tesko sarahna garne ko lage mero paas m koi shabd chaaina. Yo dukhad samay ma jo hazoor haruley emotional r padarth ko sahayata apno bhai bandhu ko lage  niswarth sewa gareko ch tesko lage prabhu le hazoor le dheroi ashriwaad dinch.  ( I hope my Gorkhali is good enough )

“My heart goes out  for the people in Nepal maybe because my family has been closely associated with the Gorkhas,” and sitting here all I can do is pray and wish well for them. Here is my small way to express my gratitude to those who are doing their best to help.

Kindness is not an act its a lifestyle they say and I think this is so true for the “Hug & Heal”community working to help people in distress in Nepal.My friend Indra Grg and his team have been spreading love & hugs along with the basic relief material to more than 100 families in the remote ares walking miles to reach them.
The need is tremendous. There is great physical, emotional and spiritual need. Two major earthquakes shook Nepal and  devastated the country, killing so many people and rendering so many homeless. 

There is a saying :“We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.” How many hugs do you think the people of Nepal require?

Hugging therapy is definitely a powerful way of healing. Research shows that hugging (and also laughter) is extremely effective at healing sickness, disease, loneliness, depression, anxiety and stress.Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love and love others.
Compassion, a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken with misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering is what makes you reach out to help those who need you.

In Buddhist practices sadness, sorrow, and pity are referred to as the near enemies of compassion. Being compassionate involves understanding the suffering of another without feeling sorrow or pity.

The  most important for care takers is not be saddened on seeing the misery. When caretakers have emotional reaction of sadness or sorrow they nourish no one. A compassionate person brings the nourishment of love and acceptance to the situation that is starving for those emotions until someone can feed themselves.

Sometimes the best action you can take to help relieve emotional suffering of another is being present with your attention on the person and say nothing. Just be a good listener, just hold hands, it might say it all. Rather than saying, "everything will be okay”.It is best to avoid false reassurance. And even if it is, that is not how the person is feeling at that moment.

In an emergency the chemistry of people's bodies can change dramatically. The so-called "flight or fight" response to a threat is the sudden release of the hormone adrenaline into the bloodstream. Oxygen to the brain and muscles is increased, to gear the body to cope with something exceptional.

This bodily state is very handy for fighting or fleeing. But it can leave a person very jumpy, tearful, angry, confused and irritable. In this state, people find it difficult to concentrate, even to understand what is going on. They might find it impossible to follow a train of thought, or to carry out an agreed plan. They might want to get away, or be very insistent on some drastic action. So the best you can really do at this hour is hug & heal . Give all the love you can and try and supply them with the basics.

For these reasons, creating a sense of safety and an atmosphere of calm is the best and most important thing to aim for. Thats what the “Hug & Heal” team is doing lets support them from where ever we are ! Bravo ! Keep up the spirit !

Jai Maha Kali, Aayo Gorkhali ! 

Wednesday, 6 May 2015

INSIGHT : "You got to start where you are if you want to expand to where you are going."~ John Maxwell

"To get insight in a situation, you have to get inside of the situation. You can’t have insight if you are removed, if you are distracted, if you pull away. You got to get close to the issue, the question. Insight is a response of reflection. In fact, reflection turns experience into insight. Leaders have insight because they’ve gone inside the circle, the relationships, the journey, they've been there , they’ve touched it, felt it, experienced it themselves. They are not far removed from it. The insight that they have is because they have been inside the situation and it allows them to lead with far sight and vision. You got to start where you are if you want to expand to where you are going" - John Maxwell

An insight as its core, is a thought you've never had before. It's a fresh thought. It stye power of acute observation. It comes from what you deduce, perceive from that observation. If visionary leaders look on the horizon and take a peek of the future, then insightful leaders look beyond to capture the violet ray, or see underneath the surface; if visionary leaders are able to zoom in the future as if it were closer; then insightful leaders are capable to pull past, present and future together to get a greater view.

Leadership is influence. Insightful leaders can make deep influence, as their unique observation & clear discernment can touch the heart, not only shape the mindset.  They are able to pull the world together with the insight that they possess.
Leaders have insight and we sometimes, refer this as vision. While leaders must have vision, they need more than that. They need wisdom and discernment.  Leaders essentially grapple with something larger than what others are willing to grapple with, which is what makes them leaders.

The three "I"s  leaders possess : They are inspired . The second component is integrity, which is a key element in building trust, without which you are never ever going to be a leader. Integrity is about coherence between what you say, do and think .They must have insight into situations, into problems and possible solutions.

Create a deep insight and be a leader ~ to lead yourself and others.

Article in the news paper