Saturday, 25 October 2014

The spirit to try new things ...synonymous with the spirit of self-improvement.


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We all can differ in how we feel about trying new things. Some resist and often fear it, while others positively crave for it. I’ve heard people saying, “I haven’t even liked trying new foods, preferring instead to eat what I already know I like.” Some, in contrast, almost never order the same thing twice. In fact, some do not even go to the same restaurant twice. Some of us thrive on routine, finding ourselves for the most part perfectly happy to do the same things day after day (never getting tired of them because we love doing them). They say when you keep doing the same thing ,you keep getting the same thing, you can't expect different results. 
Routine sets in a kind of discipline for sure. Still, despite these benefits, the real reason we resist trying new things and prefer routine is fear (what else?)—fear of the unknown. Studies suggest we fear an unknown outcome more than we do a known bad one. What if I don’t like this new dish? What if that foreign country is dangerous? What if it doesn’t work out?
But trying something new opens up the possibility for you to enjoy something new. Entire careers, entire life paths, are carved out by people dipping their baby toes into small ponds and suddenly discovering a love for something they had no idea would capture their imagination.
Trying something new keeps you from getting bored of things you do so often, you might lose the spark! I become bored if I’m not continually challenged in some way. And it’s not the new challenges I’m eager to take on that represent my greatest opportunities for growth—it’s the ones I’m not.
Trying something new forces us to grow. We don’t ever grow from taking action we’ve always taken (the growth that enabled us to be able to take it has already occurred). Growth seems to require we take new action first, whether it’s adopting a new attitude or a new way of thinking, or literally taking new action. Thrusting yourself into new situations and leaving yourself there alone, so to speak, often forces beneficial and a good change. A spirit of constant self-challenge keeps you humble and open to new ideas that very well may be better than the ones you currently hold dear (this happens to me all the time).
Which is why it’s usually this last point that wins me over. For me, trying new things isn’t about just enjoying a new activity or food, for example. I really am content enjoying all the things I already enjoy. It’s about venturing into something entirely different. And as painful as that is, nothing, I believe, contributes to our happiness more than shattering the delusions to which we cling, unable as we often are to distinguish between beliefs that are true and beliefs that are false (especially beliefs about ourselves). And for better or worse, we simply seem unable, most of the time, to identify a belief as delusional unless some experience shows us.


So win over your self limiting beliefs! Create new opportunities, grab them and get going!


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